Love Yourself Love Your Kids
with conscious parenting advocate & coach Ashley Patek
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Your Conscious Parenting Journey Begins Here
Ashley Patek is an occupational therapist, parenting and life coach, and Empathic Witnessing practitioner who redesigns the parenting experience for those committed to doing better. When we're doing better for ourselves, we're doing better for our kids.
Through her parent coaching and workshops that focus on the whole-parent, whole-child, and whole-family system, Ashley supports parents in creating a more conscious and connected home.
Ashley believes that our own childhood experiences deeply influence the way we parent our children. She is a child advocate, not only for the children we raise but for the one within.
Discover your parenting super powers together
Conscious Parenting Consultation
What are your current parenting pain points? What are your parenting values and north stars? What are your parenting goals? After deepening this understanding and offering some tangible tools, we will discuss your next steps toward a more conscious, connected home.
"Is This Normal?"
Are you a parent asking yourself, “Is this normal?!” Why does my child behave like this and why do I respond like that? identify your parenting patterns, understand your child’s unique development, fill your toolbox with conscious discipline tools, and gain access to the "Doing Better" Conscious Parenting Program.
what parents are saying about
“I came to Ashley for help with managing my child's meltdowns. Her approach is very parent-centric, so I found that while I gained a ton of tools for my parenting toolbelt, the experience was also one of self-growth."
“Ashley is masterful at restoring calm and confidence, guiding parents with practical tools, science, and compassion without preaching. The best coaches don't tell you what ot do, they listen and help you listen deeply to yourself such that you find the guidance within. This is Ashley Patek.”
"With her considerable skills and experience as a conscious and profoundly compassionate mother and parent educator, Ashley brings great depth and expertise to the work of reparenting ourselves. In helping you build a safe and loving relationship with yourself, Ashley's Empathic Witnessing sessions cannot help but change how you show up from the inside out."
"Ashley is the most exceptional parenting coach I've encountered. Her approach equips you with practical tools and strategies to tackle challenging situations. Ashley's coaching style is compassionate, yet evidence-based, and her guidance instills confidence. Her ability to help you find your own guidance makes her one of the best coaches I've ever worked with."
What is the "Doing Better" Process?
As parents, we want to do better. Better than we did last week…yesterday…five minutes ago. We want to break generational cycles of emotional wounding and do better for our children.
We all have an authentic need for safety. As children, we learn how to make our first family systems work for us because we depend on them for survival. To do this, we automatically and unconsciously grow the parts of us that our system wants, minimize the parts they don’t, and become coded with a belief system about who we are and how we have to operate to be safe, loved, and accepted.
We often enter parenthood and see our children from the lens of this programming, unintentionally creating stories about who they are and how they "should" operate. We unconsciously feel threatened by their emotions and behaviors, wondering “Is this normal?” not fully recognizing that any barrier we have with our children today is directly tied to the attachment lessons we learned when we were young.
Our bodies take over and we yell, lecture, attempt to fix our children, and resort to fear-based tactics even when we don’t want to. In this way, our children take on the emotional inheritance of not only us but of generations past as we perpetuate the cycle.
“Doing better” isn’t shaming or blaming our lineage but rather a sign of our evolution.
This is where coaching comes in. Conscious parent coaching offers gentle guidance, holding up a mirror to our patterned beliefs and reactive habits in a way that can be accessed by the subconscious mind. In doing this inner work, we reclaim the forgotten parts of ourselves and develop new thinking, feeling, and behavior patterns. We become free to redesign our parenting values and parent in a way that honors those values.
This builds the foundation for us to become our child’s growth partner, seeing them not as a projection of our beliefs but as they truly are. This creates a sense of safety for our children and strengthens our relationship with them.
When we're doing better for ourselves by doing the reparenting work, we're also doing better for our kids. We become sturdy leaders who model emotional regulation and who guide with curiosity and empathy. We set respectful boundaries and help them creatively problem-solve. When we lead from this place - instead of from fear and control - our children learn to do this for themselves in the future. And these are the type of life skills we want our kids to have, right?
When we understand ourselves and our children, it is then that we can access discipline tools from a conscious lens.
What are the 3 "Doing Better" Layers?
You, the parent
Here we will: Establish personal values; make peace with your parenting past; identify your current parenting patterns; understand the origin of your triggers; create a dialogue with your inner child and protective parts; examine your fears, limiting beliefs, and projections; learn somatic, mindfulness and self-regulation tools to consciously respond (instead of passively reacting) to your children.
Here we will: Understand your child's emotions and behaviors through the lens of attachment and development; invite internal safety through appropriate expectations; uncover their unmet needs to get to the root of their challenges; recognize your child’s unique trigger thresholds and meltdown language; and practice acceptance for the essential beings they are.
Conscious Discipline Tools
In choosing tools for greater connection and cooperation, we create a home where everyone in the system feels seen and heard. Parenting tools are unique to each family as each family system is unique. Topics may include establishing sturdy leadership; setting boundaries; establishing family values; navigating transitions and routines; managing sibling rivalry; effective co-regulation, empowered communication, and creative problem-solving; and tools for repair.
You, the parent
What are the top two best ways to get personal support in 'Doing Better' as a conscious parent?
1) Get support for your unique parent-child dynamics with Ashley's 'Is This Normal?' Parenting Assessment, which includes an intake, a 60-minute conscious parenting assessment and coaching session, and a follow-up integration process to help you apply the work.
2) Schedule a free consultation with Ashley to learn about the 'Doing Better' Conscious Parenting Program - a private coaching program that assists you in creating a unique and effective conscious parenting plan for your family, including support for multiple parents or guardians.
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